Tognoli Time

Give to Get

There are two types of people in the world. There are the “Givers”…those people who are always going out of their way to help others, lend a hand, give a positive comment, make you feel good, and encourage you. Then there are the “Takers”…those people always trying to work the angles to benefit themselves. They are in it for Numero Uno and have their hand out looking for someone to give them something. They tend to dish out sarcastic comments, tear you down, and suck the energy from you.

Which one are you?

Here is the interesting thing. Those who “give” will get, and those who “take” get taken away. It is a universal law of life we all need to understand if we want to accomplish anything significant. On the surface it’s so hard to wrap our heads around. It is like saying if you want to go faster, take your foot off the gas. However, everything in life works that way. If we want to accomplish our goals, we have to help others accomplish theirs, but don’t do it for selfish reasons. Don’t do it just because it is going to help you accomplish your goal. Be genuinely connected with those you help…be in it for them. If you want to get fit and healthy, help others get fit and healthy. If you want to become closer to God, help others get closer to God. If you want to make more money, help others make more money. If you want to improve your business, help others improve their business.

So, why is that?

I think it subconsciously helps us have integrity and accountability with what we need to do to accomplish our goals. We can’t genuinely advise and help someone to do one thing, and then do something completely different. The best way to help someone is to show them how, not tell them – that’s called Leadership...actually it is called Servant Leadership.

Someone once told me that if you want to know what your kids are going to be like when they grow up, it is not going to be what you say – look in the mirror and stare into the eyes of the person you see. That is what your kids are going to be like. You can’t ask others – whether it is your kids, your friends, your colleagues, etc. to get up early, workout, eat right, spend quality time with your family, invest, be focused, accountable and disciplined at work – and then go about your day getting up late, never working out, eating like crap, never spending quality time with your family, spending every penny you make and being a lazy ass at work.

It is like writing my Blog Tognoli Time…aka Monday Morning MOJO...People are always telling me how much they love getting it every Monday morning. I have tens of thousands of people signed up around the world who receive it every Monday morning. The interesting thing is that the person who gets the most out of my blogs is me, because I have to take the time and write it – it burns the message into me. Then I have to have integrity with what I write. I can’t say go for it and have a great life, then sit on my ass and watch life pass me by.

Give it away and watch!

Tom Tognoli Give to Get F5