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Be Vulnerable

Tom Tognoli Be Vulnerable

Recently, I spent some time speaking to and coaching college kids. My goal was to help them figure out what they wanted to do with their life, get thinking while they are in the school age. Before they get set in their ways. I tried an exercise with them, I call it, ‘Be Vulnerable’.

The only rule - be 100% honest.

Write down the things that scare you, give you anxiety, and/or keep you up at night. What makes you sad? Be honest and vulnerable. Don't worry...I won't judge you and neither will they..

Write down the things that excite you, make you happy, and make you smile. What do you dream about at night? What are you fired up about?

If you could do anything in the world for a living, what would it be?

These are just some of the questions I asked them. This is what I needed to know before I could help and give them some advice on living a fulfilling and extraordinary life.

They are all freshmen and sophomores in college, and it's amazing to me how few of them could answer these questions. They have never even been asked this before, they’ve never really given it any thought. Everyone is so worried about their kids’ STEM education-- but all too often we forget about their heart, soul, and feelings.

Got me thinking...have you ever answered these questions and shared them with someone you care about? Get in a small group of friends and family you can be vulnerable with. You can't overcome your obstacles or accomplish your goals and dreams if you don't face them, or even know what they are.