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The Afternoon of Life

It was about 20 years ago. Lynn and I went to an event in San Francisco with some friends featuring Dr. Wayne Dyer. For those of you who don’t know who Wayne Dyer was, he was a best-selling author, speaker, and spiritual guru. His first book, Your Erroneous Zones, is one of the best-selling books of all time, with an estimated 35 million copies sold to date.

He was about halfway through his presentation when he started talking about this shift some people go through in life. A shift from the morning of our lives to the afternoon of our lives. Lynn grabbed my leg…that was it. That’s why things had started to feel different in life. We had started the long and never ending shift from the morning of our lives into the afternoon of our lives.

What the heck am I talking about you ask? This is how Wayne Dyer explains it…

“The afternoon of our lives represents the time when we begin to shift away from the ego being the dominant force in our life. We begin moving towards a life journey that has meaning. The morning of our lives is really occupied by ambition—getting as much as you can, collecting as much stuff as you can get, impressing as many people as you can, preparing yourself for a job, saving your money, setting goals, pleasing everybody, and doing the right thing. Even getting good grades in school revolved around the ego part of us, which really believes that who we are is what we do, what we get, and what other people think of us. That’s basically the essence of the ego. In the afternoon of your life, you don’t do life. You do what resonates with the callings of your soul.

Think about the “afternoon of your life.” Where in your life are you creating and adding meaning to the world and yourself? How much meaning is currently in your life or are you too busy acquiring? Are you doing something you believe adds value? Have you ever stopped to think about how much meaning you experience on a daily basis? Or are you running on autopilot, just doing what needs to be done in order to make it through the day, rarely questioning your values and beliefs and instead just following suit from your family, friends, and/or community?”

If you haven’t stopped to think about it, take a breather this afternoon…maybe during that 3:00 p.m. crash…and ask yourself, where am I?

If you realize after thinking about it that there are not enough meaningful experiences in your life, how can you change that?

Life is too short to be running on autopilot. And, no matter what age you are, you are never too young or too old to increase the amount of value you contribute.

Surrender and enter the afternoon of your life. It’s where true happiness lies. Start today.

Tom Tognoli Afternoon of Life